why I asked which is best
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|Thu, 07-10-2003 - 2:09am|
I had an education I didn't want to waste. (So do I, but I feel that enhances what I can teach in the home, not detracts from it.)
What would I do if I was out of the work force for that long? What kind of job would I get then?
I want to work. I enjoy my job.
I am not trying to reduce the value of any of those reasons by saying this, but never have I seen a post say that someone decided to have both parents work full time because "DC is best for our kids". There are many studies that do show that if possible a parent should be in the home, I posted one in the other thread, and I am sure that you could spend days surfing through more that are out there just on the internet alone, not to mention other sources like books and periodicals. I got this information from printed materials, some internet, and mostly from physcologists that I have worked with. All said that there were more benifits to having a parent in the home, then if that is not possible, one on one care is the next best thing.
I do respect whatever choice is made, and I am sure that a lot of thought goes into it, but what I really wanted to know was if anyone had read research about the diffences made in SAH vs WOH while making thier choice, or not. IMHO, we do have the responsibility to care for the children we bring into the world, if that is staying at home, or finding the best DC possible, it is still up to us to know as much as we can. The kids don't really have a say in the matter, which would be an interesting addition to this debate board if they did post their feelings I think.
So, to the posters who thought I was talking about finding the best day care, and you said that you just used a dart, you missed what I was asking. For all else, I am still interested to know what things you looked at, aside from personal experience, and what you found. Whatever choice we make I feel it is good to have as much knowledge as possible, which is why I came to the board in the first place.