Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:08am
LOLOL!!! Most of these people are frugal which is fine, my parents were very frugal but they also enjoy life and are able to buy things that others can not because they have budgeted and saved their money through the years.
I don't get the concept that people don't understand that you are not supposed to have the same mindset at 40 that you did at 20. You grow in life and has you get older and make more money, you are able to do and buy more things. I am not saying you should not save because you should but why should you still be eating ramen noodles for dinner like someone in college does. You work hard to earn your money, you should enjoy it.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:09am
My parents kept up with all their cars and NEVER had a problem with them. My mom still goes constantly to do the oil, tires, etc. That was their priority in life to have a good running car and would never take a clunker just to save money. They felt they saved money by driving a newer, decent in shape car.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:12am
I understand then but why would you want to deal with that all the time. My parents had a great mechanic here, we still use him and always did everything on time. I don't there are many people who keep up with the maintenance on their car like my parents did. When I first got married and my sil and I were talking about bills, she had NO clue what "maintenance" in my budget meant for our cars!-lol!!
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:13am
Did you not keep the car until it was basically dead? That is how you have to do it or sell the car when you make enough to get another new car.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:14am
Exactly. He ALWAYS got his price because they never wanted him to leave. He researched for many months before buying and new the dealer's price and was NOT going over that. The last place they had bought 3 cars from so they knew him and had their business for so long.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:16am
What exactly does buying an '02 dealer demo in '02 have to do w/the environment?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:17am
You get a car loan because you want a decent car. You pay off the loan earlier and sell the car so you can get something newer in less time. When I leased my cars, I NEVER had to put much into it because I only had them 3-4 years. I don't like leasing as I would have to find a down payment every few years as if I bought, I would have the car as collateral to sell. My dh has bought an off lease car that has had repairs but then it is 9 years old. He will be getting something else within a year or so.
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:35am
I hear you.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:52am

Why not trade it in?

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:53am

The grease car has intrigued me as a bridge car. I think I could do it for a few years, but not indefinitely and you have to get used to your car smelling like McDonalds.

http://www.greasecar.com/

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