Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 5:13pm
I guess if you don't care to read or inform yourself, I can't help you.

Sabina


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Sabina

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 5:15pm
I'm not finding too much in your posts that reflects any sort of comment about what was actually said;

Sabina

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Sat, 02-17-2007 - 5:25pm

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Not sure why you'd ask this, given that I already said:

Sabina

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Sat, 02-17-2007 - 6:10pm

Ok, I decided to "inform" myself and I glanced at your links.

They were rather short on information and long on specualtion.

I thought the article about the cell phones, showed it's bias in the very first paragraph. The article opened along the lines of "Before you give in to your child's "demands" . . ." and then proceeded to speculate on the POSSIBLITY of brain tumors 30-40 years down the road. The whole article was peppered with speculation and admissions that the data is not clear or conclusive yet.

Also, we don't use the cell phones in the manner described in the other article, calling each other in the middle of the night for every little thing. The only people who know my cell phone are my immediate family, I only use the cell phone when I want to call someone, I don't hand my # out so people can bother me at all hours with trivial stuff.

Really, all these huge problems arent the fault of evil cell phones or IPODS, it is the fault of people who don't use common sense when using them.

Automobiles and swimming pools claim many lives per year. I don't think that means automobiles and swimming pools are inherently dangerous, it just means people need to excercise some common sense.

Common sense could alleviate all the disconnect the author seems to think is caused by cell phones.

I remember when I was growing up, Rock Concerts were the big thing to blame hearing loss on. Now it is is IPODs.

As for the speculation about cell phones & brain tumors, I consider those reports about as credible as reports that the government is monitoring us with the wavelegths emitted by microwave ovens.

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Registered: 09-03-2005
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 7:11pm
Ummmmm. You wouldn't, you'd be a stay at home mom....you'd take your education and apply it when your children are older.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 9:25pm
Actually, pay phones are disappearing as much as a step in the war against drugs as it is a result of cell phone proliferation.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 9:29pm
But "aren't always" is not a synonym for "never" And outside of HUGE amounts of justification that seems to be your argument against anyone buying them. Despite the fact that you're okay with someone ELSE buying your children this stuff. Seems like if it really were *that* big a deal, you wouldn't allow them no matter who bought them.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 9:33pm
My Mom emails me daily. We talk weekly. Interestingly enough, when I was little she and I weren't that close. Not that we were estranged or had difficult relationship. But I was Gramma's girl when I was little. It's only as I became an adult that Mom and I became this close. I would love to live near her now, but it's not possible.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 9:34pm
If Felicia didn't write to her Mom daily, what's the issue?
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 12:25am

Never mind.




Edited 2/18/2007 12:26 am ET by geschichtsgal

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