Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 6:32pm
I didn't say you were overly close; I used words such as "possibly", etc.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 6:34pm
They are way cool - I might want one sometime, too.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 09-03-2005
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:00pm
Why would you have to SAH for 20 years?
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Registered: 09-03-2005
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:03pm
I'm sure it's not easy at all to keep up w/legal skills if you're not in the field for a period of time. But at least you could always go back to fulfil your career. Your kids will never be little again and there is no going back. That's just a reality of any decision we make.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 9:17pm

but you gotta admit,*sheltered* is heard more from an observer looking in than from someone admitting they grew up that way........and after more unloading of the whoa is me,it became clear that let me blame my parents for sheltering me was simply an excuse,not real. there really could have been a life lesson learned out of all of that. but instead,it was about conditions that stopped as soon as mom and dad's money wasn't needed anymore.

maybe it's a good thing some of us aren't sporting full college rides....i don't want my kids raised to think they owe me a thing because of what dh and i provide for them. the unconditional love part and all,you know. :)

 

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 10:33pm

So unconditional love precludes paying for college?

I prefer to think that unconditional love, in my family, includes giving them all the choices on their path to adulthood that includes their choice for an entry point to the career of their choice. My children are bright, ambitious members of the global community; they expect to contribute as doctors, engineers, teachers, artists at this point in their lives (7, 9, 12). They know we will pay for a certain amount (if not all) of their college choices.

There is a limit, dd loves music, she sings, plays piano, etc., but she is not gifted musically. She may pursue the the ability to teach certain aspects of music, but, IMO, she probably will not be able to pursue a soloist career. But, if she got accepted to Julliard, we'd support her and hope for the best.

I do owe my children the best possible start in life. IMO, it includes an education of their choice as long as their interested.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 10:03am

This is from your MSN article......


We don’t know very much about the health effects of cell phone use on kids, but there are speculations,” Lai said.


Exactly!

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 10:13am
I see what you mean.

Sabina


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Sabina

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 10:14am
The risk of hearing loss is one of my main problems with iPods for kids.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 10:20am
I'd rather err on the side of caution.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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