Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 9:19am

"<> Exactly.
Sabina"

Maybe your kids, but my DD (13) doesn't spend all her time yakking on her cell phone or IMing her friends.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 9:24am
Maybe not yet, but just you wait.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 9:26am
She's a freshman in high school. How much longer will it take?
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 9:34am
My crystal ball is kinda

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 10:42am

Yeah if my dd suddenly started listening to a steady diet of country music or showtunes, I'd get worried.

My attitude tends to be *its just music*. I dont care for some of the lyrics on some songs, but I dont censor at her age now-I feel she is old enough to make that call and I dont think song lyrics are suddenly going to undo all shes been taught. We've sometimes discussed certain song lyrics and I've said why I dont like them, but its never been a huge issue with my dd. She has such eclectic taste in music-not your usual 15yo. Lately shes been into buying old records at the thrift store (we got her a turntable for Christmas) and the last album I heard playing in her room was Leif Garrett, LOL.

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Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 10:54am

I agree with you.

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 11:46am
My

 

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 12:12pm
Call me crazy, but I have yet to come up with a reason why a 7 y/o needs to hear about the pain of addiction issues. I would have prohibited the purchases of a CD of that sort when my kids were seven.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 12:24pm

ITA. There are just some issues that they do not need to hear about yet. They can wait until their teens to hear their "teen angst" being played on the radio to identify with.

My 9 y.o. loves rap music. She likes to dance to it. It is hard (but i do find) rap music that she can listen and dance to. I am pretty laid back with what I let her listen to (she loves Reba, Shakira and High school musical).

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 12:37pm

What I found with my dd though was that she didnt understand what the lyrics meant on most songs and didnt care-she just liked either the singers voice or the music/beat. And sometimes its hard to even understand the lyrics-I have a good ear and can hear and understand most song lyrics (usually I can sing a song back after hearing it a couple times) but my dd often will ask what they are saying, even now.

I bought her the edited versions of cds when she was small, because the dropping of F bombs made me cringe, but I think there is too much concern sometimes over lyrics. Like I said, its just music. Reminds me of the whole hoopla of the Ozzy Ozbourne lawsuit when parents tried to say his music caused someone to commit suicide, or the supposedly subliminal messages on the beatles albums.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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