Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 2:22am
You can also do those exact same things with the end result on a CD rather than an iPod.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 2:31am

Since when is a GYN not a doctor? "You do not need psychiatric's to get psychiatric drug's, or a doctor to get drug's in general."

You claim you don't need a doctor to get "drug's in general." The only way that is possible is illegally. A gyn IS a doctor. In every single sense of the term.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 3:46am

You know people who take prescribed drugs and really don't need to?

Sabina

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:38am
Gynocologists are MDs.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 8:08am

mental illness isn't as black and white as other diseases and conditions are,though...history of depressions,alchoholism or psychiatric conditions in the family aren't precedent to how you may be feeling,now. so yes,i feel lousy,i've felt lousy and blue and moody for a month,now is enough to get an rx for depression. society is over diagnosing,imo. oprah would say go find your inner self or answer that inside voice. :)

and furthermore,look at celebrities - the latest with nicole smith was that medical doctors are *legally* prescribing (anti-depressent) drugs simply because of *who* they are..you wouldn't see a cancer drug prescribed to them unless they had a cancer.

 

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 8:30am

I don't get the impression there's a lot in any medical area that's black and white.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 8:48am

a good psychiatrist should be able to tease apart what is some "situational" depression vs. a more pervasive condition. Usually, they will talk to you for quite a while, ask questions about your mental/emotional state over the last year, discuss things like triggers, recent events, etc.

Personally, I spent 18 months on Prozac about a year and a half after my daughter was diagnosed with her illness. I not only felt "lousy", I was snapping at the kids for every little thing -- even those things that would have rolled off my back before that time.

The medication allowed me to feel "normal" so that I could handle all of the stuff that I needed to -- and deal with the reality of my daughter's diagnosis without going over the edge.

I did know when "I" was ready to not need the medication anymore.

Carole

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 9:41am

Exactly.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 9:57am

You mean like for PPD or something along those lines?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 9:59am

Do you have support for anything, anything at all you just stated as

PumpkinAngel

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