Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:17am

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Oprah is no more qualified to make pronouncements on mental illness than you are. Oprah should stick to the kinds of things that she knows best--celebrity pandering and never-ending self-promotion.

As for ANS, before you regale us with your opinion on her medications, perhaps you might let us know where you went to medical school and when you treated ANS in order to know that she was wrongfully prescribed anti-depressants.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:18am
Yeah, I know. I just have a better chance of seeing the CD, lol. The whole pirating thing makes me crazy. For my kids and their friends, it's 'wrong" but akin to rolling through a stop sign or driving 40 in a 35 mph zone. For me, it's more like shoplifting.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:20am
Goes to a friends home who evidently has very little supervision. Pays him five bucks for five songs. Or just pirates off what the friend has on the computer. Or one of the kids gets an I-Tunes gift card for his birthday and they take turns downloading songs until the card is used up.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:23am
You never taped your music off the radio in the 80's?


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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:39am
It is not illegal to tape off the radio for personal use. But no, I didn't. I was in my mid-twenties to mid-thirties in the 1980s and quite capable of buying whatever music I thought I needed.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:44am
Well, I guess I am a law breaker.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:55am
Yes, the practices you describe do indeed constitute theft. Whether you see them as theft or not, the law does.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 11:02am
Well, I am just not that concerned about it.


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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 11:19am

The new CD is really no

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 12:03pm

You are jumbling things up. First of all, anti-depressants are not only used to treat mental illness. They are also used to treat drug addiction sometimes (Anna Nicole, quite likely) and migraines, for example.

In addition, you sometimes get crooked doctors who will prescribe drugs to please a wealthy client. Doctors like that are basically pushers. Before there was prozac, docs like that usually prescribed opiates to druggie clients.

The fact that there are crooked doctors in the world, and the fact that some anti-depressants are used to treat conditions other than depression do not make mental illness any less of a reality.

Further, diagnosing a mental illness is not the crapshoot you seem to think that it is. If someone is having problems, "history of depressions,alchoholism or psychiatric conditions in the family ..." is absolutely a very good indicator of what the problem may be. Apart from that, many of the symptoms of mental illness are painfully clear, even to lay people.

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