Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 4:53pm
Not to mention that doctors are often unsure about the diagnosis for physical conditions. Sure there is a symptom, but it isn't always clear what is causing it.


Edited 2/21/2007 5:07 pm ET by geschichtsgal
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 4:59pm
Do you really not understand the difference, legally and morally, between a CZ and a fake designer handbag?
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 4:59pm

Did you just compare brain scans to the terror alert system? Besides pretty colors, what could those two things possibly have in common? That's like comparing an x-ray to a zebra. Both are black and white, but the similarities pretty much end there.




Edited 2/21/2007 5:46 pm ET by geschichtsgal
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:07pm
Exactly.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:10pm
So, what are psychiatric illnesses? Are you assuming that psychiatric illnesses have no physical signs at all, nothing neurological (hint: there are neurological aspects to most, if not all, mental illnesses), nothing chemical, just nothing? If it is nothing, then why does it bother people like it does?
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:19pm
Aren't most psychiatric illnesses thought to be (and proven to be) neurological?
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:43pm

Why would you offer to send me their money. I don't want their money. It's not my money either. I don't hate you, but I don't condone stealing, whether it's in the realm of misdemeanor theft or felony theft.

Would you condone your daughter going into a store and stealing a candy bar?

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:48pm

What in the world are you talking about? Are you claiming this is what i have said or am thinking? Where?

No where have i said anything of the sort, if i had i was mistaken and you misunderstood what i was trying to say.

My point is that some ppl who do need med's refuse to take them and ppl who really do not need them do.

If your gonna tell me this is a false statement so be it,

I disagree.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:48pm
They describe imaginary things? Although I would agree that one of them does indeed describe something imaginary.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 5:55pm

Right, im not sure the point. Do you really believe all gyn's should be writting perscriptions for mentall illness?

I went thru four internist's to find the best fit for me, the one i felt comfortable with discussing my health issues not the one who just writes me a prescription for effexor and send's me out the door.

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