Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 12:51pm
No, sorry, it really does not. It talks about the responsibility that GYNs have for being able to screen for and recognize depression in their patients.
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Registered: 11-14-2003
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 12:53pm

Perhaps you don't have experience with a loved one who was suffering from depression. Perhaps you've never gone through the agony of having a loved one who did nothing but cry every day for hours on end for several weeks due to two very real and simultaneous tragedies in her life. I have, and I, for one, am extremely grateful that her primary care physician, who knew her very well, and knew exactly what she'd been dealing with, was wise enough and compassionate enough to prescribe a mild antidepressant temporarily, which was exactly what she needed to start moving on with her life.

I do agree that for someone dealing with a mental illness, it is essential that s/he form a relationship with a psychiatrist. However there are times when people who are not mentally ill require the use of psychiatric drugs temporarily to deal with depression or anxiety due to specific life circumstances (not just a simple case of the "blues"). If these drugs can make a difference in their lives for the better, and cease a downward spiral into more serious problems (like a nervous breakdown, the patient's primary care physician not only has the right but the obligation to prescribe them.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 12:57pm

Depression in connection with childbearing is not just any mental illness, i agree with you on that...and it would be perfectly reasonable for a gyn to treat it. i disagree with you on that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 12:58pm
I'll buy that (but not in bag form). I cited China purely because of their piracy reputation. But indeed they don't stand alone.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 1:00pm
See now, I said that back in HS when everyone was all upset about Marilyn Manson. That man WANTED the parents to hate the music, thats how he made his money. If parents would have listened to the music, the kids would have stopped. Problem solved, lol.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 1:01pm

Then I guess

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 1:02pm
I'm sorry, I thought that doing illegal things is ok as long as everyone else is doing it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 1:03pm

That's the link I read.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 1:03pm
Oh, I know, and I am sure you are right about China. It is just that we happened to talk about this yesterday and that is when I heard of the Naples connection.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 1:04pm

You haven't provided any proof that obgyn's are prescribing meds for any mental illness as you claimed.


Can you provide support for your claims?


PumpkinAngel

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