Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 9:26am
Nobody disputed that middle and upper class women do this. You don't need to prove that because NOBODY here thought it was only young and uneducated women. I'm not sure why you think to bring this point up over and over. It's in the "sky is blue" class of obvious info.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 9:27am
Hookers can be seen on streetcorners all over the world too. Man. That was the best analogy ever!
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 9:31am
Thievery described as "not a bad way to make lots of money." Hmmmm...and people wonder why gangs thrive.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 9:36am

Of course I've seen it. I've seen prostitutes picking up johns, too. I've seen illegal drugs sold...and to people who would never stoop to inviting their dealer to dinner or the theater.

They don't call the participants of ALL those illegal activities "common criminals" simply because people are fond of alliteration. Crime is common. So are those who support it with their money.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 9:40am
No, you fail to understand that even if it is common, widespread, not done in dark alleys and done by "nice" people with MAs, it is STILL criminal behavior. Prostitution and drug sales are indeed apt analogies here. FTR, I have lived in NY and currently live in a European capital. I am not unfamiliar with this trade.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 10:32am

Just google "cost of raising a child" for a variety of studies and sources.


For example, according to MSN Money:


"For 2004, the newest data available, the U.S. Department of Agriculture estimates that families making $70,200 a year or more will spend a whopping $269,520 to raise a child from birth through age 17. Higher-income families in urban areas in the West spend the most, $284,460."


That figure is low for us. In the past 7 years, we've spent over $160,000 on childcare for only 2 kids.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 10:34am
Oh, and as to the cost of college, it's about $170,000 for 4 years TODAY at a top Ivy League or pseudo Ivy League school.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 12:24pm

There is nothing to go back and forth on...a claim was made, no support was given, point is moot.


<<Perhaps you should research it yourself it seems like you may need to. >>


Not really, the point is moot.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 12:40pm
:)
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 12:46pm

I guess the

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