Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 1:00pm
What do you considerto be heart medications? Medicines for High blood pressure? At what point/threshold should a person go to a heart specialist? Or any specialist for that matter?
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 1:48pm
Why shouldnt your internist be describing heart medicine? If you mean for high blood pressure.. that is what a internist is for...to focus on you as a whole...if they cannot describe you heart medicine they refer yo to somone who can.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 10:18pm

Because a cardiologist should be. An internist isn't an expert in heart care. A cardiologist is.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 10:19pm
As soon as they suspect issues with the cardiovascular system I would hope.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 8:38am
So what does an internist actually do besides reccommend specialists?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 8:44am

I think of an internist as the first front on a multitude of things. THey will be able to treat you in matter of the heart, lungs, nervous systems, lymphatic system, brain--- thrugh the first and sometimes second levels.

For example, several years ago, my internist prescribed "X" for my migraines. It was the second level of medication. She said, if this doesn't work- then I will send you to a neurologist.

I think the same thing with my current primary care doctor. Ther are certain first and second things doctors can help a patient on high blood pressure- suggest diet and excersize, precribe X and Y and if thatt doesn't work Z. If Z deosn't work, then they will send one on the to cardiologist.

IMO, a specialist shouldn't see patients with run of the mill issues - even if they pertain to their speciality.

The attitude that one must see a specialist for everything is *one* of the reasons we are in the current healthcare crisis.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 9:44am

why aren't you producing substantial facts that prove mental illness is connected to the practice of obstetrics......it's not. it simply supports the theory that we're an over diagnosing country. a new mom who tells her ob that she has post partum blues can simply get a diagnosis and rx because of how she's feeling.

my obs with all 3 pregnancies were great. follow up was spectacular...but if i really had the blues,really felt mentally ill or unstable,that referal s/b assigned to a psychiatrist,not ob.

 

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 11:00am

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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 11:04am

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 11:31am
Oh please, please don't bring up Andrea Yates!

 

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