Why should I support someone else?
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| Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm |
Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.
I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.
The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.
So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?


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"The able bodied shouldn't even be entitled to benefits."
But they are. I am pretty sure I told you the story of my 22 year old able bodied MALE friend who went for welfare and they asked him NO questions why he could not work. They just immediately told him how much they would give him.
But many people are more financially stable at 30 than at 25.
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You can't predict with precision, but you can guestimate how able you are to afford a child (or another child) at any given time. You look at where you live: will you feel comfortable using the public schools or will you need money for private school or moving to another district? Do you foresee having that money in 5 years (k)?
You look at your home: can a child or another child fit in it? Or will you need a larger place?
Is your food budget stretched to the limit? Or can you accomodate another mouth to feed with no stress? Is their wiggle room in your budget for other incidentals such as doctor co-payments, clothes, beds and bedding etc. Or are you living so much on the edge that you are in perpetual fear of having the electricity turned off because you had to choose between that and food?
By asking these questions, people can ballpark whether or not they can afford a child- or another child. It's not a dollar figure as such. It's more like a hard look at whether you currrently have wiggle room or whether you are living hand-to-mouth and another child could tip you over the edge.
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