Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:39pm

Of course.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:49pm

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Absolutley.

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that is what i was directing.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:52pm

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Yes, i know that was my point, you can questimate.

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 9:28am
I waited until 35, and I was financially stable.
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Registered: 04-05-2006
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 9:52am

Hi!


I'm new to this board, and I agree- if someone needs help with childcare, I would much rather

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 4:18pm

Strange, when my brother was a single dad and needed just a bit of help they wouldn't give him a thing.

Amy

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Registered: 10-23-2006
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 4:22pm
Me too.


Edited 1/24/2007 4:28 pm ET by sahwannabe
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 4:23pm

My father in law used to tell DH and I "if you wait till you can afford children you'll never have them". He came from a poor family of 9 kids. When they moved from West Virginia to Ohio they literally hitched rides, 11 people and their belongings. When I met him he had a great job, had since the youngest of his kids was little so he had seen both sides of living.

Sadly he retired 2 years ago and died before he received his first pension check. ther are no guarentees in life, it's what you make of it, rich or poor.

Amy

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Registered: 10-23-2006
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 4:27pm
Me - I was stable at 30ish. The very first thing I bought for my wife when we were financially stable was some Lovely perfume and a RARE Cartier bracelet.
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 4:29pm

Those things would be of no value to me no matter how much money I have. My 6 kids are what are important to me not "stuff" money can buy.

Amy

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