Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 01-28-2007
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 7:58am

I agree. A sale and a coupon and I get a better deal on new clothes than used clothes from a thrift shop which have been thru several wearings and washings.

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ITA. It's just a preference - not a political statement.

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Registered: 01-28-2007
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:00am
I loved our bassinets. We went thru 2. They had a "vibrating" feature that always seemed to do the trick. The perfect transition to crib.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:05am
These are not people who "run in my circle". They are neighbors and dh's family members. I am not friends with any of them but just know their stories. There are many people out there like that and it is very sad.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:06am
Not true. My neighbor just went to a clearance sale at Old Navy and got $95 worth of clothes for her kids for $18. You don't need to buy used to get a discount.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:07am
Well for myself and my kids, we never had hand me downs because we never had anyone to hand things down to us.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:09am
No I do not. I give all my kids clothes to Big Brother.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:10am
The only reason I used the bassinet because it was from me and my sister. My son was only in it a week though and I put him in the crib.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:11am

i have to agree with how thrift store is being tossed around here..........when i first met dh,he was the thrift store kind. blazers,coolest cargo sort of pants came from there. meeting me was the next best thing to sliced bread. i introduced him to the mall where the same things were about the same,if just a little more than what he bought used and soiled.

i do like consignment for kids,though. the one i shop at here is a bit upscale and very,very picky about what it carries and what condition things are in.....unique items would be the words to describe what i can find there.

 

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:15am
I have to agree with you. I would think that the things that are at a thrift shop are clothes that have been worn until the child outgrows them. If they are not Gap clothes (which I have done the best washing and wearing over the years) then they will not wear long enough to get through the season with your child.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:16am
I always get Lands End winter coats for my kids as they wash extremely well and last the entire season and more if they needed to.

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