Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:52am
My experience with Old Navy has been extraordinarily poor. THe clothes fall apart after one season.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:58am
wow. too bad..i found it hard to finally have to give up an old navy 3T zipper winter jacket last season..it was a unisex yellow and went through all three of my three year olds. it was donated in perfect condition.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 9:02am
The local thrift stores here widely advertises for the "rich" to both donate and to make purchases from their store. That enables them to actually give the needed items to the truely needy rather than making them pay for it. Even non profits have bills to pay and those bills a paid via those that make purchases from their stores.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 9:10am

I'd rather have an unfurnished house and wait til I could afford some inexpensive new things.

I love fashion but whenever I see Renee Zellweger in vintage couture, my skin crawls. Her vintage dresses and alterations just might cost more than any dress I own. But I still can't get into that vintage trend.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2001
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 9:18am
That's a very good, accurate description for your situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2001
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 9:24am

I registered for a few things because my friends insisted.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2001
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 9:27am

I just sold a bunch of stuff at a garage sale & on line.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 10:33am

"what did you wait for before deciding you could *afford* children?"


Health insurance and an income of over $100,000.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 10:39am

Oh please. I challenge *anyone* to look into my kids closets and tell me they can tell which clothes were purchased from the thrift store/second hand and which were purchased from the mall. There is certainly no way to tell, especially after they have been washed once.

I have two nieces that get hand-me-downs from dd. I recently helped my SIL (the mom of the second niece) unpack some hand-me-downs from niece #1, and was pleased to see many of dd's clothes still perfectly wearable, even after years of use. We aren't poor, but it seems wasteful not to reuse things that have plenty of life left in them.

Carrie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 10:41am
I'm with you, I don't shop thrift stores (but I do love eBay).

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