Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 1:40pm

I agree, especially for play clothes.

Robin

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 1:47pm

I have a boy and a girl. My little girl wore quite a few things that were handed down from her brother. Osh Kosh denim overalls can look quite feminine if you pair them with a pink t-shirt, lol!

Robin

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 2:12pm

It doesn't much matter whether previous owners washed the clothes frequently or not. Nothing infectious can live through hot water+detergent+time in a hot dryer. You clearly don't like the idea. But it's just an idea. Any organism that might harm a child will die after your own proper washing/drying.

For a short while, Tide was running an ad campaign that listed by name a handful of the infectious organisms that it would kill. This campaign was short lived, as all ad campaigns that actually name microorganisms are short lived (I like these ads, but many don't). Some of the organisms they listed by name were commonly found in feces. I guess it was just too off-putting for people to contemnplate what Tide (or any detergent) can actually wash out and kill. But even if the ad flopped for being too gross, it actually is true. And not just for Tide.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 2:29pm

I didnt compare ebay to a charity. I said it was like a big garage sale. Do you shop garage sales?

And if the money from items purchased are benefiting the needy regardless when it comes to places like the Salvation army thrift stores, I dont see the difference. Those places depend on people coming regularly and spending more than .50 on things. If *only* the homeless or needy shopped there, they wouldnt have much profit to donate.

Read Lois' post.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 2:43pm
There are places that you can only shop at if you have a voucher or whatever that says you're needy enough. There is one in our community called "The Wardrobe" that is located right near the public housing projects. It's run by a coalition of churches, takes used clothing all year long and poor people can come in certain times of the year (like right before school starts, etc) and get clothes, shoes, coats, etc for really really cheap prices. Funny thing though, they get way more donations than they need or can handle and about 90% of what is donated there ends up being passed on to Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc. -- the thrift stores that are open to the public.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 2:51pm
the one i'm thinking of is like that,too. it's public,meaning i could shop there if i wanted to. but don't....i stand behind the point that those not for profit,thrifty shops are around to attract the poor and less advantaged than (you and) i.....i see women with kids in tow carrying out 2,3 large bags of clothes and other mdse sometimes. if it wasn't a handout,they probably got that *all* for not much more than $10.00. a bargain from my perspective,sure but probably stuff that was helping her start over,again. their mission.


Edited 1/30/2007 3:16 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 2:52pm

I totally understand what you are saying.

Unfortunately I don't stay at many hotels. I wish I did because it would mean I would be going away more!!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 3:03pm
No. I know the type of people who shop there and they are lower class people. I am not making an assumption. The thrift shops here are geared toward the lower income families.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 3:38pm
NONE!!!!!
Christi babies
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 3:42pm
The stores I sell DS's clothing to require it to be freshly washed & pressed.
Christi babies

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