Why should I support someone else?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 9:58am
That is why I like donating to them. We have tons of boxes around we can throw our clothes in but I don't know what happens to the clothes and things. My mom used to work for a company that made rags out of clothes to sell to companies so not all your donations are going to poor people.
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Registered: 01-28-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 9:59am

It's also about stains. Delay washing and stains won't always come out. Wash immediately and stains are more likely to come out.

I disagree nothing infectious can survive washings. (Not everyone washes on the hottest setting anyway - it's not energy efficient.) Just take a look at the DNA left in clothes for years which has exonerated many who were incarcerated. Even Jon Bonet Ramsey had DNA left in her underpants that still has not been associated with an individual.

And blood and other bodily fluids may or may not be infectious depending on their composition, but the stains sure survive delayed washings and washings on warm/cold. Not my cup of tea, but you can have at it if you like!

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Registered: 01-28-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:02am

Please tell me thrift shops don't sell used underwear?

Why does your husband get to have costly clothes of his choosing while the children have to wear second-hand?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:03am
Great Post!!! I know millionaires (who doesn't if you work and have a boss-lol!!) and NO, they do not shop at thrift shops. There are many who are very cheap but they would not be shopping with Joe Schmo who works in their factory for clothes at the local thrift shop. They are mostly millionaires by using coupons and discounts on clothes at regular stores.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:06am
Neither have I. I have shopped at the Gap Outlet for many many years and most, if not all their styles are in this year. Alot are classics that you can wear for years, which I have done. Last year when Bermuda shorts starting getting hot, they had them right away. I have bought the exact same fleece sweatshirt in the Gap Outlet for more than half the price of the regular store. Their clothes wash the best of any store.
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Registered: 01-28-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:07am
ITA. That's another thing. Buy used clothes at the thrift store and one doesn't know what they're getting in terms of size. *Sometimes* (eyeroll) clothes are not washed before being donated. So when one buys, brings it home and runs it through one hot water washing, it can definitely shrink. So, it's an entire waste of money. No one knows what they're getting into terms of quality and size.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:07am
UNDERWEAR???? Not that is just disgusting-sorry!! You can underwear VERY cheap in stores. Why would someone buy USED underwear at a thrift shop????
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:08am

OMG! OMG! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!

<< disagree nothing infectious can survive washings. (Not everyone washes on the hottest setting anyway - it's not energy efficient.) Just take a look at the DNA left in clothes for years which has exonerated many who were incarcerated. Even Jon Bonet Ramsey had DNA left in her underpants that still has not been associated with an individual.>>

Bwah!!!! OMG! LOLOLOL

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:09am
Well you said you were not into the recent fashions so you must not know that cashmere is VERY in now. I bought a zip up cashmere sweater last year with a hood for $30. It is the kind of peice that will NEVER go out of style AND it is extremely warm. It is the warmest thing I own.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:11am
I have stated though that there are things that have just come into fashion, Bermuda shorts for one. Things go very quickly in the outlets so if you don't grab it while you are there, you will miss out.
Have you ever shopped at the outlets? You can get great deals for little money.

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