Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:13am
Ewwww!! I agree. You have NO clue what some people's homes look like. Just look in your local multiple listings or go look at houses. ALOT of people have disgusting homes. You think their clothes are clean if their homes are not???
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Registered: 01-28-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:13am
I know, isn't that story hysterical? Now I simply hand our clothes directly to those who need them! LOL
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:13am
Has anyone advocated buying clothes, thrift or not, for their children that don't fit?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:14am
I asked the same thing. Ewwww!! This is just another case of parents taking care of themselves BEFORE their children. I go without something new before my kids have something ALWAYS.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:15am
I agree. You might be saving money here and there but how much are you ACTUALLY saving? I can shop at Walmart and get a shirt for $5 that will shrink next week. I could have gone to the Gap and paid double and had it for years.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:16am
Everyone only having new clothes is extremely environmentally unfriendly. I think some people worry a little bit too much about germs. How have people survived for as long as they have? It's a relatively new phenomenon for people to only buy new clothes and wash them between every wearing.
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Registered: 01-28-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:16am
And if you're going to donate clothes to a charity, it's really not that expensive to go out and buy a bag o'underwear at Kmart, Costco. This lowers my impression of the quality of clothes sold at some of these places. I'll take an outlet store over thrift stores anyday.


Edited 1/31/2007 10:23 am ET by twsettrs
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:17am
If you've only paid a dollar or two for it, then who really cares if it's a waste of money for that one item.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:17am
I never said they advocate it but I have seen so many children whose clothes do not fit them, too small or too big (over and over) that it breaks my heart that they are second best to other things in their parents life.
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Registered: 06-17-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:17am
You said it so much better then I could!

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