Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:30am
I don't have the time or energy to do ebay. I think it is better for me to give things to less fortunate people who NEED these things. Not for someone who wants to save a buck so they can spend it on themselves.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:30am
My husband and I, having been frugal all our lives, now have assets well in excess of a million dollars. I shop at thrift stores and yard sales. You are, quite simply, wrong.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:31am
There is a difference between big and BIG. One of the kids around the block from me wears shirts and pants that are WAY too big for him and I don't mean by the styles the boys wear. The other sibling wears clothes too small.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:32am

I know a multi millionare personally who shop at thrift stores and who lives in a 1970 single wide trailer on 70 acres on the river.

Drives a old ford pick up and his blood hound who name is jake who goes with him everywhere he goes. :)

There are many many millionares expecially the area iam moving to, who do not choose to buy new clothes and only shop at thirft shops, garage sales ect...




Edited 1/31/2007 10:48 am ET by xenozany
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:32am

You can get to be a millionaire just by using coupons? Wow, everybody in the checkout line in front of me at the grocery store must be millionaires.

It was a lot harder for us.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:33am

In the past, the oldest child in a family may have had new clothes, but pretty much everything was handed down. If there weren't multiple kids in a family, the clothes went to cousins, friends or neighbors. If you go even further back, most kids had one or two outfits period that they wore all the time.

As far as really cheap-- this might not be much of a factor if you always use coupons and shop clearances, etc. But it is clearly harmful to the environment to only purchase new clothing.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:35am

1)Stains are visible. Avoiding stains on used clothing is about the easiest thing there is. Just look: if you don't see any stains, there aren't any.

2)Your bit about DNA didn't refute my claim that infectious organisms don't survive washing/drying. DNA is not an infectious organism and has no power to cause infections when removed from the living (or quasi-living, like viruses) organism it came from. And inndeed you are right that DNA evidence on clothes can decide a case. These clothes with the DNA evidence are UNWASHED!!!! When clothing is taken from a murder victim to be used as evidence later, it is NEVER washed- since that would...destroy the evidence.

I avoid stains because they are unsightly (though not infectious). If one buys used clothing that has no stains (yes! it's out there) then the whole point of stians not washing out is moot.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:35am

Yesm they do even bras and teddy's. YUCKO!! I would not purchase used undergarmets that is not my style.

I can find them on sale at other stores and do better price wise anyway.

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Registered: 01-28-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:36am

Exactly! And I'm not going to be the first to find that some new superbug survived a hot washing and injured my children. That's why they're called...superbugs. LOL!

Excuse me if I don't trust the word of someone on a message board who hasn't tested materials that have gone through several machine hot washings - which is completely environmentally unfriendly, by the way. (Sorry, we own hybrids too!)

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:37am
If you go to a decent store, it will not. I have NEVER had a problem with Gap, Children's Place and even Target. I get tons of clothes for my kids at Target every summer for pratically nothing. Kids are VERY rough on their clothes in the summer and I can get shorts and shirts for them $5/peice.

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