Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:55am
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:55am
By too big I mean jackets that the arms are touching the floor, sweatshirts that are for 13 year olds when you are 8. I bought a size bigger shirts for my daughter last summer because I was not allowing her at 8 to have her belly show.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:56am

1)No, all sorts of things DON'T survive on clothes that have been washed.

2)"Just look at DNA cases": yes, let's look. 1)Police make sure that clothes taken from a victim are as intact as possible to preserve DNA evidence. Are you under the impression that police WASH the clothes before storing them as evidence? Remember, you aren't claiming that DNA can remain on clothes. You are claiming that DNA can remain on clothes even AFTER they get washed in detergent and run through a hot dryer- which is what I do with any used clothes that I get. Police cases don't bolster that claim because the police are very careful to keep the clothes in the exact same state they were found in- which doesn't include washing them. 2)DNA is not alive. killing organisms in order to identify them by their DNA (or RNA) is becoming rather common. Killing. The organism doesn't survive having its DNA removed.

3)Don't be so sure that people who have clothed their kids in "gently worn" (where did threadbare come from?) clothes would never do the same for themselves? I've worn many items previously worn by others and I'm surely not the only poster to have done so.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:57am
Well the millionaires I have come in contact with over the years would NEVER go to thrift shops. They are well dressed people who need to be dressed in expensive clothes to keep their positions.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:57am

TOTALLY. Come the year 2100, there's no doubt in my mind that this will rate as THE Tragedy of the 21st century. The tragedy by which all other tragedies will be measured and found wanting.

Katrina? A breezy day at the beach.
Sunami? High tide.

Frankly, it's hard to imagine anything short of Armegeddon outmatching THIS ounce for ounce as The Tragedy that Surpasses All Others™.

And you were there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:58am

It's not rocket science. It takes a lot of energy and resources to produce new clothing. Reusing clothes not only prevents the unecessary use of these materials, it also means that fewer clothes are going to landfills.

Jessica

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Registered: 01-28-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:59am
Also, are you saying you too shop in thrift stores for your kids but not yourself?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:59am
Those are millionaires who die with all their money and make other people happy when they are gone with all their money. They are NOT enjoying their lives and the money they have. I would rather have NO money and enjoy my life then to live so frugal and leave all my money to other people. Just my opinion.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 11:00am
Think this through. Be logical. Many of the clothes found in thrift stores started out at such places as The Gap, Children's Place etc. The labels are still on them. If you can trust a new, never-washed Gap shirt not to shrink, why is it suddenly more liable to shrink if it eventually winds up in a thrift store?
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 11:00am

I work and my boss is most certainly not a millionare. In fact, I doubt I'll ever work for a millionare. On the other hand, my grandfather had over a million dollars when he passed away. I have a feeling my grandma reusing everything had something to do with it.

Jessica

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