Why should I support someone else?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 2:40pm

Well thats good, then you understand that the profit goes back into the programs they support.

Dj

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 2:42pm

Totally agree.

And I for one, do not want to teach my children that.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 2:44pm
Why are you assuming kids whose clothes can be donated aren't as active as yours? My dd simply plays favorites. She wears a few outfits into the ground- they can't be donated. The other things she wears once or twice and doesn't wear again- these get donated. I see absolutely no point in requiring her to rotate her wardrobe so everything gets an equal amount of wear. She is not unique. It's pretty common for kids to wear something once or twice and never again. This is how so many fancy children's clothes end up in thrift stores unworn out and unstained. The velvet Christmas pants that dd wore once and absolutely hated (didn't like the texture) are presumably now on some other kid. Possibly as playclothes. You have no reason to assume that lack of wear on an item of donated clothes means lack of activity from the original owner.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 2:58pm
I am not trying to be mean. I said in a few posts that I would rather go to regular stores than a thrift shop so someone less fortunate could get clothes less expensive for themselves.
I don't understand why they would not take the change, it is money. You can always take your change to the local supermarket and get dollars for it. They have one in my local supermarket and people are always using it.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 3:00pm
Ugghhh! I shop on ebay all the time and luckily have gotten all quality things. If there is anything I hate is stale cigarette smell!! I could sit in a bar or club for hours and the smoke does not bother me, it is the smell of my clothes and hair the next day-ugghhhh!!!
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 3:02pm
See, I'm the opposite. I pay absolutely no attention to the lasted fashion trends and am terrible at recoginizing name brands.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 3:04pm
No, I am speaking in terms of moving ahead in life. My parents never bought anything they could not afford. They worked themselves up and now my mom can afford whatever she wants, in reason. I see their point of moving "down". Why would you buy a new car and then go back to a used car (they have NEVER owned a used car since they were married)? They planned their lives very well. They saved and saved and saved but we also always had everything we needed and went on nice vacations. They knew to put away money for the future, keep money to buy things needed and wanted and enjoy themselves. As they got older and had no children to take care of on a daily basis, they were able to buy bigger and better things. Isn't that why we teach our children to go to college and get a good job so you can move up in life as you get older? Who would want to live at the age of 65 like we did at 20 with nothing?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 3:06pm
I just have learned (from experience) through the years when you see someone get something either a new car, updates to their home, etc. that you have NO clue where their money came from.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 3:06pm
Well then that is good.
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 3:10pm

Why does your husband get to have costly clothes of his choosing while the children have to wear second-hand?


Perhaps because her husband is less likely than the children to sit in ketchup or wipe finger paint on his shirt.

 

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