Why should I support someone else?
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| Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm |
Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.
I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.
The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.
So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?


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It is exactly that anonymity that allows me to speak freely of my financial situation, which I would never do IRL. However, given that much of the SAH v WOH debate centers on family finances, I've always been up front about our financial situation during debates on this board. My DH is a financial planner, he's good at what he does and we practice what he preaches. FIL is an entrepreneur and your textbook MND--DH learned a lot from him.
Why on earth would I lie to a bunch of virtual strangers?
Completely untrue. I've already stated that DH and my assets total over a million and that we shop in thrift stores. Likewise, Lois has also stated that she and her DH have assets over a million and she also shops in thrift stores. So your statement that "millionaires don't shop in thrift stores" is quite wrong. Two have just told you that. Whether you chose to believe us is your choice, but I've been on these boards w/Lois for several years and she's not a liar. Nor am I.
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That's also untrue.
Oh Lois--if I were further along in the pregnancy, I just may have peed myself on that one. Excellent point. And if you'll excuse me, I need to use the restroom now...
ROTFLMAO.
No, that is not waht I am teaching my children at all. In fact, if they grew up thinking the purpose in life was to aquire bigger and better things, I'd be a little disappointed. The worth of a life is not measured in how many (or how little) *things* a person has. I want my children to grow up to be citizens of the world, to recognize the needs of others and to live life happily and fully. None of these have anything to do with bigger and better things.
Part of the reason that I teach my kids to be happy shopping at thrift stores is because I worry about their futures. The price of housing has increased dramatically in the past few years, and I wonder how they will be able to afford even a starter home. I want them to know the value of a dollar, and know how to tell the difference between a need and a want. Clothing is a need - new clothing is a want.
And there are many people that would regard buying a new car as a foolish financial decision.
Carrie
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It probably depends on what field you are in.
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That would depend on how wise your investments are.
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