Why should I support someone else?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2006
Why should I support someone else?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:24pm

Let me start by saying that I"m new here so this may have already been discussed, but this has come up in my office several times and I wanted to get some other views of this.

I do payroll for a rather small company so I know most of the workers and their wives (most of the workers are men due to the nature of our business). There are two in particular who's wives SAH. These two are up to their eyeballs in debt. I have bill collectors constantly calling for them. That part is really their business, it is annoying but I enjoy being rude back to the bill collectors, lol.

The part that bothers me is that both wives have been in the office wanting copies of X amount of check stubs so that they can go and get public assistance (I know because they told me that is what it is for)! Why should my tax money go so that these women can SAH? I know that not all families that one parent stays at home are like this, but I know lots that are. Heck, growing up we were always broke because my mother refused to work, but we weren't on any public assistance.

So, why should I pay for a woman to SAH? Why can't she go and get a job to support her family just like anyone else?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2006
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 4:42am
And they spent the entire last year IN SOMEONE'S STORE GETTING TRIED ON BY WHO KNOWS HOW MANY UNBATHED PEOPLE. (caps for emphasis). "Unwashed masses" is a common figure of speech and generally refers to the rank and file. You do know what "rank and file" means, right?
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 5:36am
LOL
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:17am

So, you're saying that people who shop in thrift shops are all environmentally conscious?
They only take public transportation or walk?
They are all paying thousands of dollars extra to make sure they drive only hybrids?
And of course they are all composting?

Please. Self-righteousness only extends so far. You can try to judge, but remember, Hazeleyes is the one donating the very goods you are lucky enough to be buying at a huge discount.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:22am

Exactly. It is the American Dream to own rather than rent, to buy a car outright rather than finance, to send one's child to higher education that perhaps the parents never got to enjoy, etc. You are spot on.

Funny how fast the judgmental attitude we are seeing here quickly dissipates when thrift shop goers pay a buck fifty for my cashmere sweaters, t.v.'s and Drexel Heritage side tables and chairs!

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Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:31am

I have not had luck with used cars either. Unless you're a grease monkey or know one, it's totally a losing proposition for someone like me. "Used" is not always the bargain one might think.

We just donated a car to a charity for children and the car only had 45,000 miles on it. They specifically said donated cars are sold directly to dealerships which certify their used cars because they can get a better price than Edmunds (?) or bluebook or whatever. (I hope so, the tow truck guy was licking his lips a little too much for my liking!)

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:35am

That's your opinion. My opinion is that I will only buy hybrids because I give a darn about the environment and refuse to contribute unnecessarily to global warming. Hybrids are thousands of dollars more than the average car. And of course, many hybrids are only going to be new cars.

I disagree with buying used cars whose excessive, harmful emission levels are technically legal because "grandfathered in." I couldn't live with myself. Different strokes.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:36am
???? Often. Financing a car is fiscally irresponsible.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:37am
But don't you care about the environment?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:43am
So you didn't buy a hybrid out of concern for our environment. That's a shame. That's one of the luxuries if one is actually a millionaire next door - you get to easily afford cars with low emissions and care about our environment. Anything else would be unthinkable.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 6:46am
LOL! It's never a bad financial decision to buy a new car for a few thousand dollars extra and have lower emissions and therefore save the environment. What bizarre reasoning.

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