Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:41pm

<<No, no one will admit to that.>>


Hazel has.


<<Will anyone own up to buying clothes that are made from minors in factories where they are being held until the fill their quota and not even making a decent wage? >>


Again, not the debate.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:41pm
I have to disagree with that. I am the hostess, just like at any party. The woman who sells the bags has her own company name. I am not employed by her company.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:41pm
Exactly. They could care less about me. They want either the person who is there selling or even better, her supplier.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:41pm
You're knocking a poster for buying illegal merchandise. Do you not do the same? It's a simple question.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:43pm

"That's not the point. The point was that hazeleyes is buying (and selling at a purse party) illegal counterfeit goods, which is a federal crime"

Why? Because they last for years. I wish I had my guess outfit I bought in h.s. (It would NEVER fit me anymore though-lol!). It lasted wash after wash after wash.

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Registered: 09-14-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:43pm

Better now. Some twit in our office thought he had chicken pox friday afternoon, but kept working to the end of the day. Now several other people are sick. I've already had them twice in my youth but I was fighting some virus off all weekend and up to yesterday afternoon. That sucked.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:43pm
Doesnt matter. I could use credit and pay it off later. Again you can not afford it unless you shuffle money around. Anyone can do that. That is not affording something.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:44pm

"Hazel has."

And she's the only one who has.

"Again, not the debate. It's just a strawman. "

Why is this not the debate? wHAT'S a strawman? When you don't want to answer a question?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:44pm
What money would I have to shuffle around? It would not go for anything else if I stayed home. It would be extra money in my pocket. When my daughter only has 4 days of after care and not 5, I pocket that extra day.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:49pm

Disagree all you want. Tell that to the federal agents that will arrest you in your home if they find out you are hosting a party. The law is very clear as I have told you before.

http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/counterfeit-handbag-lawyers.html

Is Buying a Counterfeit Handbag Illegal?
An individual consumer who buys a counterfeit handbag is probably not breaking any laws. However, manufacturers and distributors are criminally liable for trafficking knock-off purses. Those who host popular purse parties (the modern-day Tupperware party) are considered to be sellers of counterfeit products and are similarly liable for their involvement in these activities.

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