Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:51pm
That is it. You would have to take a day off and keep her home from daycare. That is called shuffling around money. How is that any different from me charging a pocketbook and paying it off? If you cant pay for something out of pocket without having to alter something else then you can't afford it. It is very simple.
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:52pm

Any reason that you didn't link the many posts where Libby talked about the financial details of the parents?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:54pm

Thanks.


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:56pm

Oh, then why were you thinking

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:59pm

<<You haven't answered the question if you buy clothes that are made by minors in factories where they are forced to fill a quota and not being paid a living wage to support their families?>>


You mean the strawman?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:01pm

No, I have never knowingly purchased a counterfeit purse.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:02pm

"You mean the strawman? No, I haven't answered that, it's irrelevant to the point I was debating."

LOL.

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"I can honestly 100% say that I have never had an illegal purse party, attended an illegal purse party, nor knowingly purchased a counterfeit purse. That was my debate."

Are you taking the 5th then about other articles of clothing? LOL

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:02pm

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:03pm

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My kids go to Catholic school and there are plenty of ways to be involved w/o being a room parent.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:04pm

That's all good.

If you're happy with yourself about that and can sleep at night with the clothes in your closet and bureaus made in Malaysia and Peru, good for you.

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