Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:05pm

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Okay, I have never had an illegal counterfeit party that sells clothing or any goods really in my house, I have never attended one either.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:06pm

No, your links don't contradict what I said. Rather, logic dictates designers have more important things to do than file federal or even state *criminal* charges against fake purse party hostesses.

And logic also dictates you should at least peruse any links you claim support your theories. Obviously, you didn't read your links. Gotta love Google.

From your first Google link (and in complete support of my opinion):

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:07pm
I asked a question and you refuse to answer stating that's it's a strawman. you have placed a judgement on this woman and won't answer a question directed at you. I'm curious how you judge other people.
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:07pm

It's better to build a house (er debate point)

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:08pm
Ah yes, the Catholic school girl stereotype once again. You think this didn't happen in public schools as well? As a public school educated person, I can assure you that there are just as many kids who behaved like that outside their parents' watchful eye as well.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:11pm
Sure, I know this happens in public school. if you read my post I said I attended a Catholic HS, not a public. I had PS friends and knew some were like that. Just stating that because a child attends Catholic or any private school does not make them goody two shoes, to use this term again, lol. The parents are paying a hefty sum to try and keep them away from that and they are not immune to it.
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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:12pm

Said by the woman who loves touring the wine country. Do you hire a car for that or drive yourselves? ;)

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:14pm

Again, such wonderful reading comprehension abilities.

Yes, I think she is telling the truth.

And...??

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:14pm
OOHHH, you're good!
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:15pm

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Actually, yes they do.

PumpkinAngel

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