Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:15pm

Bingo!:

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Buying the bag is not a federal crime. It is not a state crime. Why did you say it was? Why do you claim Hazeleyes' purchase of a bag is federal crime?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:17pm

<<I asked a question and you refuse to answer stating that's it's a strawman. you have placed a judgement on this woman and won't answer a question directed at you.>>


I answered it, see the previous post.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:20pm

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Whose parents? You are making some broad assumptions here. Perhaps that is why YOUR parents sent you there. It certainly isn't why my dh and I are sending our kids to Catholic school. And I'm not naive enough to think that my kids aren't going to be exposed to bad language, etc simply b/c they are in a private Catholic school.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:20pm

Do you ever read links? Or do you think it's credibility enough simply to provide a link, bonus points for the lengthier reads?

Anyway, you didn't address my concerns about speeding, driving while drunk and stealing from one's employer every single day by playing on the internet while at work. Are you going to say all of those people are not breaking the law?

Now that Mbanc has most ably pointed out that Hazeleyes was in fact NOT breaking the law, are you going to apologize for saying she was?

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:22pm

"Whose parents? You are making some broad assumptions here."

A great number of parents that I have known and know now. That is their number one reason for sending them, certainly not all parents.

"Perhaps that is why YOUR parents sent you there."

I think it is!

"It certainly isn't why my dh and I are sending our kids to Catholic school."

What's your reasons?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:22pm

"The parents are paying a hefty sum to try and keep them away from that and they are not immune to it"

I personally pay a hefty sum to give my daughter a better education than my crummy public schools in my city and to give her some basics of good citizenship, responsibility and respect.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:23pm

.....and nothing.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:23pm

Do you read my posts?

Anyway. I had clarified for you why people at bag parties are not charged with crimes. You can pretend they are, I guess.

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Why - so you can NOT read them!! That is the funniest thing you've said today, and it was hard for me to choose, believe me!

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:24pm
I believe that would fall within the definition of "trafficking" set forth in the Stop Counterfeit Manufactured Goods Act.

 

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:25pm
Thanks! I try.

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