Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
3712
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


Picture003.jpgIMG_3599-1.jpg






Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at Photobucket

Photobucket

 &nb

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:28pm

<>


When and if they are provided, yes.


<>


No, I don't.


<>


I'm not sure exactly how you want me to address your concerns.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:30pm
Realistically,

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:30pm

<>


Yes.


<>


I never said they were.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2000
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:31pm
Ditto what mkatherine said. Sheltering them from bad language and cigarettes wasn't even on our list....
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:31pm
Really.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:44pm
I have the choice though. I can take off and then I would have the extra money if I wanted to. It would not be stopping me from paying any bills as they would stay the same and I would just have 1 less vacation, personal or sick day. Just like I said about the after-care situation. When she is off for holidays and I take off or someone else watches her for free, I have that extra money per week. It is basically "found" money.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:45pm
I wouldn't either.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:45pm
It's clear you can afford the darn bag! Several bags obviously. But boy, you're getting it from every angle on this board, Hazeleyes. Sorry about it all. Sometimes women sure do live down to our expectations, ya know!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:46pm
I said I would if I wanted to but at this point there are other type of parties I would like to have instead and my friends decided they would rather do something different this time. I am not limited to just a handbag party. I have had jewerly ones before. I have been to food, stamps, crafts, etc. parties. There are many out there.

Pages