Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 11:59am

You're welcome, just let me know when you are ready to renew the debate with my actual comments!


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:00pm

Good for HIM!!! the nYC parade looked AWESOME. June is gay pride month and Bostons parade was the 9th -- it's always a blast.

Tell him life is better on the other side of that closet door!

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:01pm

Sometimes as a mom of two I have a hard time, I can't imagine how a mother of six makes every single event.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:02pm

sometimes as a mom of ONE I have a hard time -- LOL -- Liza was in eight performances of "the Jungle book" with a local theater group and by the time I'd sat through it twice I thought ok. done now! LOL

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:04pm
So what are you saying then? did you not say that reliable cars will not overheat?
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:04pm

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Details, was there an accident?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:06pm

I heard that years ago with the older model cars but I have never heard that with a new reliable model car.


Can you provide some support for that statement?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:07pm
I have been debating about your actual comments!
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:07pm

Nope, just thought that it was interesting.


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:10pm
lol. My brother was always different. He took care of my younger sister and I while my mom worked. He looked out for us. He had girlfriends but he never seemed happy once he got past the initial physical attraction stage. He always said there had to be more. well, he started playing tennis with this guy and they became inseperable. he said they have been just friends for the past 2 years and they both want to move it to the next level. this other guy was married and has 2 kids but the wife supports him. He just seems so much happier than he ever did when he was dating women.

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