Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:10pm

LoL....


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:12pm
It probably is a regional thing. My mom lives in the south and I don't think they do them there either.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:14pm
It is obvious that all the gifts are cash because you stand in a line at the end of the reception with everyone else saying good bye and giving them an envelope.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:14pm

"Details, was there an accident? Weather? Just normal heavy traffic? Stop and go traffic, dead stop traffic? All could make a difference."

Have no idea if there was an accident. could've been further on up. It was dead stop traffic for awhile and then stop and go. The weather was hot about 90 degrees, factor in humidity and it was about 100.

How the cars were so unreliable that all of them had to have their air conditioners turned off."

The cars weren't unreliable, the conditions were unreliable to have to sit in traffic in the heat with the a/c turned on.

"Of how everyone in the car after sitting for 3 hours, needs to sit for more hours, as I asked earlier."

How can I clarify that? Most of the people that came from the direction we did, were hot and sweaty, exhausted, just wanted to sit. Alot of them complained that they had to get up and serve themselves. How are you not getting that?

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:14pm
Hey now, everyone loves a man in uniform!

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:15pm

<<did you not say that reliable cars will not overheat? >>


Nope, didn't say that either, lol.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:15pm
Be my guest and look. I'd say the majority of us had newer model cars.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:16pm
Glad I could be of interest to you, rofl.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:17pm

Unfortunately as I keep pointing out, no,

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:17pm
oh, ok, so you haven't had any problems, therefore, no one else should??? LMAO

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