Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:18pm
The ego? Wouldn't you think they are so happy that they are getting married that they want to let everyone know?
Weren't you excited when you got engaged and wanted to share it with the world? I know I was estatic!
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:18pm
if you say so. Asking a question of how someone finds out how much a wedding costs is pretty factual.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:18pm

....and you know what is in that envelope, exactly...how?


What if you are in the front of the line?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:20pm
I think that's the problem. When people aren't so excited about their own weddings, they kind of feel a sense of entitlement on other people's weddings of how they should feel. Most of the people I know are ecstatic to get married and their wedding days have been described as one of the best and memorable days of their lives.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:26pm

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I don't see that the conditions made it unreliable to have the air conditioner shut off for three hours.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:27pm
Well if staying at home isn't all about the kids then who is it for. If I didn't have kids then why would I be SAH for? That doesn't make any sense to me. I would love to finish my education and go back to work, I would love to be able to go and do the job that I love, but my kids are much more important to me at this point in time so I stay here with them.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:27pm

Again, it is your point to prove or disprove not mine.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:28pm
I only tracked how much "I" got, no one else. I am stating that every wedding I have gone to, the bride and groom only got envelopes, at least there at the reception. I have no clue how much everyone else gave. I only know I much I gave.
And yes, everyone basically leaves at the same time even though it takes an hour to say goodnight-lol!!
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:28pm

...and I thank you!


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:28pm

<<oh, ok, so you haven't had any problems, therefore, no one else should??? >>


Nope, didn't say that either.


PumpkinAngel

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