Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:56pm

YES!


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:58pm

<<Because you are essentially "making money" when you have a wedding. How horrible it might sound, it is the truth.>>


NO, that is not the truth.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:01pm
Sorry you're offended! I hope you don't also believe in child betrothals or widow suicide, because I'd have to knock those, too...
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:02pm
See, now that's what I always thought *invitations* were for!
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:05pm
I don't share your philosophy that a wedding is all about the b & g. On the contrary, it's an occasion to share with family and friends, and to *include* them in a celebration. Whatever tends to make it hard for them to attend seems inconsiderate to me.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:06pm
If the b & g really want everything exactly the way they want, why bother inviting anyone at all?
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:08pm

"I don't see that the conditions made it unreliable to have the air conditioner shut off for three hours."

Yes, the conditions (weather, traffic) could make the car overheated thereby causing the car to be unreliable at that time. Doesn't mean it's an unreliable car.

"Excuse me but where did I state that I didn't get that they were complaining?"
Hmmm, maybe from the clarifying and details. It seems you didn't get it at all.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:09pm
huh? i've heard that said as a figure of speech many times....i.e. somebody asks what you received in line of gifts and you respond with this,that and i made about 800.00 in cash. no?

 

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:09pm
No, I said I know that they give money as they are given envelopes, not gifts. We do not have gift tables so you know they have not been given a gift. If someone is to send a gift to a home, wouldn't you think they would send a card too? Why would you bring that to the wedding with you?
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:09pm
You already know how I feel about save the date cards and destination weddings. I also disapprove of pushing cake onto faces, personalized aisle runners, and 10-year wedding debts. But wedding fashions can and do change regularly throughout recorded history.

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