Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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there's nothing else for me to prove.
Clue me in.
No. I have never said nor heard anyone say they "mADE" x amount in cash at their wedding. I have heard people say they received or were given an amount but not 'made'
and I would argue that the bride and groom have done nothing to "make' money on their wedding day. If I could 'make' money by showing up in a fancy dress believe me i'd do it every day!
Yes. We. Did.
"Outside the birth of the my children, that is pretty much how I would describe my wedding day, but I didn't do any of what hazel has described, either."
And no one said you had to. It's a decision that should be totally up to the bride and groom.
What would be the point of sending out a save the date card around the same time as an invitation? Aren't they typically sent out well ahead of the invitation as a "heads up", as some of these posters describe?
Of course neither an save the date card nor an invitation means you're obligated to attend. But to me, the save the date card serves no true function not fully addressed by the invitation itself, except maybe to announce, "This party is so important that just a regular invitation, sent 6 to 8 weeks ahead, isn't nearly enough".
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