Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:17pm
It's not that you haven't been perfectly clear. Just mysterious as to why this "heads up" is necessary. Why not just go with sending out the invitatins 3 or 4 months ahead?
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:17pm
we are talking of dollar dances, nothing else.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:18pm
you learn something new everday.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:19pm
the guests have the option to decline. Usually people are pretty happy to spend the day celebrating a couple's wedding day.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:19pm
Which of course begs the question, why is a save the date card necessary or even worthwhile? Could it really be just so the happy couple can "shout it from the rooftops"? But of course I'm someone who doesn't understand personalized aisle runners, either.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:20pm
Hard to discuss? I don't think anyone's having the slightest difficulty discussing it!
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:20pm
from your posts. I couldn't possibly get it from anywhere else!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:20pm

"But of course I'm someone who doesn't understand personalized aisle runners, either."

I just spit my coffee out. They HAVE these? So the bride can WALK on her own name???
I swear this whole "its my superduper specialspecialday" stuff is way out of hand.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:21pm
Now, show me where I put in "always" in my post, lol.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:23pm
I've never seen these. I learned something new today, LOL.

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