Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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<Yes, we spoke to them, they are my dh's cousin. First they post-dated the check for a week and, then we had to pay the fee for the bounced check. After a couple of weeks because they knew it was going to bounce, they said they would invite us over for a steak dinner (my dh's family is VERY impressed with steak). 14 years later, I am still waiting for that invitation. They are the biggest drinkers so basically they had a "free" evening out of eating and drinking. >
Why would you have to pay a bounced check fee??
I've never gotten a "save the date" card as such but have been told verbally for a handful of weddings. It would come up in conversation as "we've set the date for X, we just ordered the invitations and yours should be in the mail soon". I have just always seen this as nothing more than a heads-up and regard the info as the same (but in advance of) the literal invite. Of course, the wedding actually IS the most important thing to that couple. Anything that would override it in importance would have to be either some sort of emergency or the wedding of a family member. If I am to be invited to a wedding, I will not see any other invitation (excpt family member wedding) as being of higher priority and something I'd rather do if only I hadn't been asked to save the date.
And if a couple means so little to me that I WOULDN'T save the date, then I wouldn't go to the wedding either (though it's unlikely they'd invite me if I was so little a part of their lives that I wouldn't save the date).
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I get that. ;-)
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why not just send out a heads-up notice earlier? And who in the world sends out an invitation 3-4 MONTHS ahead??? Most are sent 6-8 weeks before the event.
Again, CLEARLY different strokes.
carole
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