Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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Acadia :-)
Blue Hill...jeeeezzum that's goin' some as we say downeast. I did summer theater for two years as a performer for a tiny theater in Castine. When we got to go into Blue Hill (or dare I say Bucksport/Searsport or even the thriving metropolis of Ellsworth) it was a real treat!
Yes. We. Did.
As I've said in my other posts, I've never been invited to a wedding where I didn't know the date well in advance of when the invitations go out. I guess it's b/c we only get invited to weddings where we know the couple well enough to actually have discussed their wedding plans with them and knew the date they chose. OR, in the case of relatives, my mother or MIL actually tells us.
I also don't have such a full social calendar that I need to know about something that far in advance. 6-8 weeks in advance, which is typically when we receive most wedding invitations, is ample enough time for us to plan it for our calendar. In the off chance that I've scheduled something else (which I can't really remember happening), chances are it's something that I can change. Most of the things we do socially don't involve much preplanning, certainly not more than eight weeks or are things that we can't change. Maybe that's b/c most of the stuff we do involves our kids or are impromptu or casual get togethers with friends or other families.
Again, it has never been an issue for any wedding we've been invited to mainly b/c we already know well in advance, simply by talking with the couple, when the wedding is going to be held. I guess some people, however, don't maintain that kind of communication with their friends and invite people that they rarely talk to. 11 years ago when we got married, we didn't use "Save the Date" cards, and somehow we ended up having more people than we expected to come, actually RSVP that they would be there. Imagine that....2/3 of those who came were from OOT and most of them had to fly to get here.
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Can you clarify this?
PumpkinAngel
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