Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 11-14-2003
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:22pm
You mean the pre-printed ones that are at least a page or more describing the family's activities for the entire previous year? Yuck. I can't stand those. Talk about impersonal. Maybe this is harsh, but if I haven't personally spoken to or corresponded with someone in over a year, I probably don't care what color their new car is, or which trophy their child won.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:29pm
I agree with you on the boring ones. We get some that I like. One family wrote theirs in Haiku last year- each person in the family was given a stanza. Brief, but informative. We have a few friends that have a flair for humor and are quite funny (I like people who can see the humor in a half bath renovation that took 3 months ).
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:29pm
When you are in line, it is pretty obvious what everyone is there doing when you do it at every wedding.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:30pm
lolol!! I guess my life is so boring that I would never have enough to fit the entire page!!
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:32pm
dh parents live around surry so yea,i'm more familiar with down east maine than other areas...i do remember freeport being the epitome of outlet areas and kennebunk area being more affluent than other parts,too? i'm sure this time of the year there is just lovely. ;)

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:32pm

I disagree and I have attended weddings with receiving lines, I couldn't tell you what everyone was doing in the line....only a few before me and a few after.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:35pm
I am not speaking of a receiving line. This is a line just to say goodbye and give your gift to the couple. We do receiving lines at the church. That is just to congratulate the couple.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:59pm
I've already explained this fully in previous posts. Imo, there are several other nuances involved that result in a thumbs down on these Save the Date cards in my book.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 5:01pm
Disagree; 8 weeks ahead is plenty of time, even for out of town guests.
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 5:01pm

sure you want people to "save the date", but marking it on their calendar in NO WAY commits you to attending the actual event. For US, we used it as an announcement of our plan to get married. No different than if I had called my best friend the next day (which I did) and said, "guess what? Steve asked me to marry him. We set a date for June X, 2007."

Carole

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