Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:15am
They met there and vacationed there regularly so it's a special place for them.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:16am
I believe everyone was.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:17am

"Once again, I have no idea where you got that from. Certainly not from anything I have stated."

maybe from all of your requests for details and clarifications. Must be mistaken then.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:18am
Oh, then I guess you worded your post wrong.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:21am
True and we did have to walk to our hotel, check in, bring our bags in. Then drive to the wedding reception, stand most of the time at cocktail hour, so by the time the dinner part rolled around, we were ready to sit!
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:21am
Just thinking maybe you wanted the day to be about you and didn't get that.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:24am
Hopefully, you never will!
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:27am
Oh, ok.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:28am
I live in the USA and was speaking of cultural traditions that are practiced here.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:31am
lol

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