Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:33am

"i'm sorry that you don't know people that get so excited over big events in their lives that they want to share it with you."

I think that's a great theory. The people probably know what reaction they get, so they save it for people who will truly feel happy for them.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:34am
and that's who they had surrounding them!
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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:35am

"I can only imagine the budget that will be expected for these little princess' weddings."

What if the parents can easily afford it? are you going to begin to tell them what is ridiculous or not for them to spend their money on? ROFL

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:09am
so when you go out with your husband or with friends it is really for the kids. when you do volunteer work it is really for the kids. and if what you say is true, what is different about going to schol because you would really love to or working at a job you really love, to in your words "keep your sanity", would that not also be for the kids? if that was what YOU really wanted to do. can you explain how your husband is able to play such an active role in his kids lives but other wohp's are not? happ healthy kids have nothing to do with ones work status, if it did there wouldnt be so many happy healthy kids who have dual wohp's. and is it really fair to our children for us to do everything in our lives for them - that seems like an awfully heavy load for kids to carry.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:10am

I still wouldn't be able to tell you what everyone is doing in the line, unless of course I was tracking the guests and I simply am not.


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:12am

It is strictly against MLB rules to throw foreign objects on the field, even from the bleachers, lol.


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:13am

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I think her statements directly contradict that comment.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:14am

That was certainly the first thing I thought.


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:17am

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PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:17am

Well said.


PumpkinAngel

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