Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:20am

Of course it is okay, one doesn't invite guests in order to receive gifts.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:26am

<<Well, then in making the whole family the way you believe it should be, then aren't you raising more happy healthy kids??? You can work around it all you want, but in the end everything that you are saying has a direct effect on your children. >>


I disagree on the direct, perhaps at times but not always and not everything

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:26am
Well then you have never been to a wedding where only money is given as everyone knows what you doing on the line.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:28am

Yes, I believe you do not go to an party without bringing a gift.

You think $100 is enough for 3 people at a nice catering hall? If they could not afford anymore then she would have definately understood. They are in no way hurting for money.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:28am
No, they don't but it is expected that you DO bring something when you are invited.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:29am

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Well said.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:31am

Can you provide an etiquette rule that states one must bring a gift to every party they attend?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:33am

the irony is funny.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:34am
Where's the irony?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:35am

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It is your opinion that it is common sense, not a factual statement.


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Nope.

PumpkinAngel

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