Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:35am

I haven't seen any evidence to support that statement, either.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:36am

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Yes, you were.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:37am

No...


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:37am

Straight from Emily Post:

If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation—as in the case of an older couple or an encore wedding —please respect their wishes. If you receive an announcement after the wedding has taken place, you may send a gift if you wish, but you have no obligation to do so. It is nice to acknowledge the announcement with a card or a note expressing your best wishes.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:41am

Sab:

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:45am

<<Well then you have never been to a wedding where only money is given as everyone knows what you doing on the line. >>


As I have said many times now, I don't know, because I don't track the guests and gifts/envelopes given to the bride and groom, never will either.


There is no way,

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:46am

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"It is your opinion that it is common sense, not a factual statement."

It is common sense.

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"Nope. It was another statement that I hadn't made."

Post 2738 and 2704, you asked for details and clarifications. My apologies if you are not Pumpkinangel.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:47am
I don't need to provide any evidence. It's common sense to me, if it's not for you, go for it. Drive for hours and hours in stopped traffic with your a/c on full blast!
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:48am
I provided the post numbers in a previous post where you asked for details and clarifications.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:49am
Her whole attitude about weddings and brides.

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