Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:55am
Well I consider that absolutely no class of a person to go to a party and not bring a gift.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:55am
absolutely
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:55am

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Again, your opinion.


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I don't see anywhere in either post where I stated

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:56am

<<Drive for hours and hours in stopped traffic with your a/c on full blast! >>


Again, something that I have never stated.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:57am

"Again, your opinion."

Did I say anything to the contrary?
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"I don't see anywhere in either post where I stated that I don't get it as you claimed."

Repeatedly asking for details and clarifications.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:58am

Yes and in those posts there was not a single point where I stated that since I don't have problems, no one will.


As amusing as this is, I am going to have to ask you to stop making false statements about my comments.


Thank you.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:58am

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"Again, something that I have never stated."

I know, I stated that.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:59am

i agree. and sometimes it's about turning your car off all together if you know you're going to be sitting awhile...i gained that tip through no mechanic manual or theory,but rather the experience of um,hurricane rita. lol.

you just neeeeever know. ;)

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:59am

That isn't how she acted on her wedding day.


So again, false statements?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:59am

"As amusing as this is, I am going to have to ask you to stop making false statements about my comments.

Thank you."

You didn't ask for clarifications and details in those posts?

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