Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:01am

<<Instead of just going back and forth, I will just take it that you have never been to a wedding like we have where there is no gifts and everyone will stand in line at the end of th evening to give their envelopes. >>


I'm curious, how many times do I have to say "I don't know", I haven't tracked all the guests and the bride/groom?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:03am

Again, something I haven't stated.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:04am
A 'save the date" card is an announcement that you will be invited to an event that will be held on a future date. It is an announcement only and does NOT obligate you to save the date. So if you hear of something you would rather do between the time you get the save the date card and the time you will be responding to the actual invitation, you are perfectly free to attend the event to which you would prefer to attend. "Save the Date" cards are really nice for people who may have to indicate their preference for their summer vacation days in January or some such thing.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:05am

As opposed to judging someone on the type, amount and delivery of a gift?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:05am

I still haven't stated what you claim.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:08am
I guess it is the way you are raised. I would never show up to someone's house or party without a gift. Even if I am invited for a bbq, I will bring dessert. It is common respect.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:09am
Were the comments about me being dropped out of right field and the bleachers also false?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:10am
What's the reason for a link?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:11am
I claimed you asked me for details and clarifications, did you not?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:12am
So she can listen to another rude person who thinks it is ok to go to a party without a gift!

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