Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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Exactly what I do.
PumpkinAngel
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You stated something about etiquette and that it was rude not to bring gifts to every event you are invited to, I would think that if you are referring to etiquette, then you would have some kind of etiquette rule, since
PumpkinAngel
Yes!
PumpkinAngel
If you're at a distance, as you pointed out, prior notice well in advance can be a lifesaver. However, any sort of advance notification can put you in a bind; the problem with the Save the Date thing is the assumption that any and all guests would welcome the possibility of being put in a bind, even if they don't happen to live far away.
Why would you need to tell anyone if you're coming any sooner than 2 or 3 weeks ahead? That, to me, isn't really part of the problem (or at least what I see as a problem, lol). To an oral heads up, you can just say thanks.
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