Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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I feel the same way about some of them. Not the black, of course...I wore black at my own wedding!
But no, I've never expected my preferences to be considered even for a second.
In my opinion a first communion is a religious right of passage which in no way places an expection of gift giving on anyone. I was very clear with my daughter before her first communion (which was just last month) that we are inviting people to a party afterwards to celebrate this wonderful event and to celebrate the love we all have for her and that she should not expect to receive gifts at all and if she did then it was a lovely expression of love and a nice bonus. I will not raise my child to think that the world should give her a gift every time she turns around. period.
For the record, she recieved some lovely gifts, and some lovely cards and had sent out hand written thank yous by the following week.
Yes. We. Did.
by saying that the "save the date" cards are tacky, she's said that the only way to do it is HER way.
she disagrees with sending them because she feels that they are done to put the recipient "on the spot" to make sure they save the date and plan nothing else for that day.
she thinks that sending them is only about the bride and groom's ego.
No, I think her view of them as "tacky" indicates that doing it that way is wrong and that the only way to do it is hers.
Tacky is her word, not mine.
Carole
Do you think that remembering 14 years later who "stiffed" you at your wedding is a classy thing to do?
Robin
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