Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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"I can't speak for anyone else but I do not EXPECT a gift."
Please...you have posted time and time again trashing, not only people who didn't give you a gift, but people who had the nerve not to give enough to satisfy you. Make up your mind!!
Robin
I'm sorry but if you are throwing a party, especially a wedding, you KNOW you are getting gifts. It is not a big surprise when someone hands you an envelope. I was VERY happy with all the gifts I got and was not expecting to get as much as I did. I was NOT there to make money as these other couples are doing nowadays. I was very appreciative of what I got as half of it helped us with a down payment on our house.
so what's your point..are you condoning the lie about forgetting to bring a gift when you reality,you really didn't forget at all. you were just embarrassed about being the only one who didn't gift. is that it? why excuse it at all much less with a lie to cover up a habit of something you do on more than one occassion?
oh and no,i wouldn't know about expectations.......i sort of follow an ordinary,boring gift registry for a wedding and at least flowers if the invitation expects no gifts at all. shrug.
My parents did not throw us a wedding either for us to get money from guests but it is common knowledge (at least where I live) that you give a gift. You do not show up with nothing and try to tell people you "forgot"!!
Nice playing innocent, though.
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