Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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I would not have let a friend not come to my wedding when I really wanted her there. I had a friend of a friend come that I did not know and had no problem with it! He was driving one of our friends cars and we told him just to come to the reception with us. He went home and changed and came.
I think you probably get that I meant "exclusionary" in the sense of "tending to leave out those who might otherwise be able to attend and whose presence might be very important to the host/hostess".
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Let's hope you're never put to the test by anyone close enough to you for it to pose a dilemma.
<> And I'm equally quite certain that you have no idea by what I have meant. It's just a notification. Period. The only "tone" given is that which you have INFERRED, which in fact, is probably the furthest it could be from what was actually meant, i.e. notification of an upcoming event.
I think I'm done. We're going to have to agree to disagree here.
Carole
If they had told me they couldn't afford it, I would have never said you can't come.
Agree to disagree. I don't think there's anything tacky about the save-the-date cards at all.
Carole
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