Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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"why is it so difficult to understand that I can make it to all of the parties and games etc... "
IME, it is impossible. Just last month, EDS had a field trip at the same time that YDS had his cast party for the Puppet Show. IMPOSSIBLE to do both.
When EDS was in baseball and YDS was in soccer- they frequently had games/practices at the same time 45 minutes from each other. IMPOSSIBLE to attend both.
IME the same parents do not gone on all the field trips. That priviledge is shared. Each class has about 3-4 field trips a year - there are enough parents wanting to go on field trips that we have to take turns. We get to go on 1 or 2.
Our school schedules field trips for certain grades when other grades are having a special day and need to spread out (like COlonial Days, GRECO day, 1st grade International Holiday party....) If you have two children in those grades you CANNOT go on the field trip AND help out on the special days. IMPOSSIBLE.
Add a sick child, and you have to miss an event.
Adding 4 more children to the the pot would increase the number of conflicts exponentially.
Why is it a lack of class to have a wedding book that has sections for names, addresses and gifts in it? I wrote everything down so I knew what gift I needed to thank for, for the shower and how much each person gave as a gift for the wedding.
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