Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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Just thought it was weird to compare a dollar dance to a situation of child rape. Surely alot of people wouldn't be okay with that situation.
You're not, are you?
Exactly....
PumpkinAngel
I would very much care if my son and I had such a damaged relationship that he would issue me an invitation to something knowing I couldn't go but that other people would be attending. It would be flaunting the damaged relationship.
On the other hand, I can certainly see my son and the girl of his dreams saying something to the effect of "Mom, Lisa Jo and I can't stand the idea of a big wedding, or in fact, any kind of wedding at all and we are going to run off to the top of a mountain and get married at dawn. Just the two of us and the pastor."
In the first instance, I would be crushed. In the second, no. It would be a rare instance of the kid being even smarter than his parents were, lol!
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