Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:07am
Because I think it's considered rape here.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:08am
I'm not sure why you think it makes such a difference whether we discuss customs within the U.S. or internationally, but I doubt it's a question of your intelligence.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:08am
ok, glad that's straightened out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:09am
Only because we have been discussing weddings in the US this whole mega thread, lol.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:10am
No, they aren't. If they *really* have the dream of getting married on top of a mountain, and I am disabled, what I would do is encourage them to live out their dream, take videos, and then let me throw them a big old party afterwards. If they are getting married on the top of a mountain as an "in your face" gesture, it's a whole 'nother thing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:10am
n/t
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:11am
Nope; most everywhere in the world, including the U.S., there's no rape within marriage. At least, that's the legal presumption.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:12am
the parents can bring the groom up on charges if they didn't consent to the marriage. No?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:12am
Yes, weddings in the U.S., sometimes with customs drawn from other countries, like the Phillipines, where the dollar dance is reportedly very popular.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:13am
exactly and performed here, where some uptights can't wrap their brain around it.

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